The important thing is…to speak clearly!
Today we would like to share with you how to master your communication skills and how to express yourself that people listen to you.
Has it ever happened to you that you needed to repeat things over and over and over again without being understood? Have you ever felt the feeling of utter frustration for not being understood? Have you felt anger when you were talking to someone but not received any answer? Have you ever thought that your communication was so clear and simply and those who did not respond were not listening to you? We are sure that you must have experienced one of those feelings as a teacher, parent or kid. But do not worry, it happens to everyone.
Actually, being able to communicate efficiently requires lots of effort and practice. Failing to do so leads to a set of negative feelings such as anger, nervousness, frustration, the fear of not being heard, and anxiety.
Here are some of our tips how to improve the way you communicate:
First, you need to switch the focus from the receiver (listener) to the sender (speaker), you need to focus on yourself.
When we communicate, we usually pay attention to the receiver instead of ourselves. We often think the other is not paying attention to us, not listening to what we say. The speaker needs to change strategy.
Second, we must make sure that the person we are talking to is listening to us.
In the age of multitasking when we do many things at the same time, simultaneously, we need to check if the receiver pays attention. If not, you should not start talking until you have someone’s attention. Do not try to speak louder or shouting, it won’t help.
Third, always use the appropriate language adjusted to your audience. Do not assume that everyone will understand the meaning of your words. For example, you need to be very careful when communicating with children and young people because the way they think, their experience and wisdom are very, very different from ours.
Last but not least, use your body language, your facial expressions and what you say consistently.
The verbal, nonverbal and paraverbal communication pathways should be aligned. Just think of receiving a letter or message and being a bit confused decoding it without hearing the tone of the voice or seeing the expressions of the sender.
In short, the best piece of advice we can give you is the more consistent your message sending channels are, the less likely you are to be misinterpreted.